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LGBT / GLBT Cancer Survivor Lesson from Land Mine Survivor

By on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008

The Five Steps of Survival from a survivor of an Israeli land mine explosion, for us as cancer survivors.

1. Face Facts. One must first accept the harsh reality about suffering and loss, however brutal. “This terrible thing has happened. It can’t be changed. I can’t rewind the clock.  So now what?”

2. Choose Life. That is, “I want to say yes to the future. I want my life to go on in a positive way.” Seizing life, not surrendering to death or stagnation, requires letting go of resentments and looking forward, not back. It can be a daily decision.

3. Reach Out. One must find peers, friends, and family to break the isolation and loneliness that come in the aftermath of crisis. Seek empathy, not pity, from people who have been through something similar. Let the people in your life into your life. “It’s up to me to reach for someone’s hand.”

4. Get Moving. Sitting back gets you nowhere. One must get out of bed and out of the house to generate momentum. We have to take responsibility for our actions. “How do I want to live the rest of my life? What steps can I take today?”

5. Give Back. Thriving, not just surviving, requires the capacity to give again, through service and acts of kindness. “How can I be an asset to those around me, and not a drain? Will I ever feel grateful again?” Yes, and by sharing your experience and talents, you will inspire others to do the same.
Please email your survivor stories to darryl@outwithcancer.com and we will post them here.

Comments

  1. Psiplex says:

    Nice job in putting this information on your blog. Folks need to know more coping skills in dealing with their cancer. #2 is the key to starting your fight. If you don’t want to go through it, no one can do it for you.

    All the best!

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